As a child I recall hearing a lot of sermons that focused on how bad and sinful we all are. I also heard many sermons telling us how we ought to be—assuming we need to be someone different from who we currently are, in Christ.
In my professional practice as a Christian therapist I have discovered that most people who come into my therapy room, though they claim to be professing Christians, are in bondage to their shame. They have never considered that the Christian life, if lived from the perspective of Jesus, will be a life of freedom.
Sadly, many Christians consider living the Christian life to be dictated by living by all the rules, the “shoulds”, and the “oughts”. This leaves the believer either living in a place of desperately trying to please others and never being good enough; or putting on such a false front that they fool themselves into thinking they really are better than they are. In both cases, there is no freedom…only a life defined by the law.
Jesus said, “If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed”. Do you feel free? Or do you feel shackled to the curse of never measuring up.
If the shackles of shame become too heavy, I invite you to becoming a student of Grace. When you live in the place called Grace, you are “good enough” for a holy God because you are made righteous by the death of Jesus. Living in relationship with him means you can begin to trust your wants, because you begin to desire what He desires, and your daily failures do not matter to Him. What matters to God, more than anything else, is that you trust him with all your circumstance.